“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!” Psalm 133:1 NKJV
I very vividly remember the loneliest time of my life. I was single, had just moved to Florida, I knew nobody here, and had just met my roommate. It didn’t take long for me to get so desperate for community that I went out and bought a little $5 plant from K-Mart so that I could water it and sit with it on my back porch; I named it Pete the plant. Now that’s lonely!
People can turn to crazy things when they are lonely. Drinking or partying friends are super easy to find when loneliness sets in, but there are so many regrets made from going down the wrong path to find community. There are all kinds of clubs and hobbies people join to find community as well, but nothing takes the place of Godly fellowship. Screen time even tries to replace time spent with good friends, but there is no substitute. Fortunately, I got busy going to a little church near my home and attending Bible studies. I met other Christian singles in the same stage of life as myself, and I met some older Christians who became mentors to me.
Although my lonely season didn’t last long, I learned a valuable lesson during that time: we are all meant to be in community. I’m not a social butterfly that has to be around people all of the time, but the life of a hermit isn’t for anyone, no matter how introverted they may be.
Fast forward a couple of years. In the early stages of my marriage I can remember being occasionally frustrated over the same reoccurring issue: