Even if it isn’t our natural response, we can learn to live unoffended. We can choose a better response. No, it does not come naturally. But neither does true love or politeness. Name anything we want our children to display, and I’m pretty sure it will be something you have to repeat and work at for years. It all comes down to a choice. After choosing right for a solid while, that choice becomes your initial reaction.
First, we must recognize the negativity of offense that covers us. Second, when we feel it, we must tell our mouths to shut, giving us a second to respond rationally, not emotionally. Now, humanly speaking, it may make more sense to be offended and let your mouth reflect this, but let’s bring some wisdom in here and let God have a say. We just can’t do it without Him. We can’t love well or live well without letting God have every part of our being and life.
I recently finished reading John Eldredge’s latest book, Get Your Life Back. One of its best action items is when it reads, “Give everything and everyone to God.” Say it out loud, “I give _____ and _____ to you, God.” Breathe deep and ask God for a better response. Don’t let feelings rob you of the glory God has for you at that moment. You may have to do this several times, for several days, for several months. Whatever it takes! Keep choosing and seeking God’s wisdom and give every offense to Him.