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“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4 ESV
What do a hard-core carnivore who jumps out of airplanes for a living and a staunch vegetarian who likes to keep her feet firmly planted on the ground have in common? They’re married. And let’s just say it makes life interesting!
My husband and I have been married for almost ten years now. He’s one of four children and I am an only child. It was quite the culture shock when we got married. I was an independent woman who had grown quite fond of making my own decisions and my husband, although he was very laid back, was a military man and not used to people who bucked at orders.
Our first year was rough. Then we learned about something called The Five Love Languages, a book by Dr. Gary Chapman. The book shares that everybody generally has his or her own primary love language in which they prefer to give and receive love. The love language could be the same for both the giving and receiving or it could be different. The five love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
After we completed the test to discover what our Love Languages were, what we found out about ourselves wasn’t surprising. But what did surprise us was how important understanding love languages were. Speaking someone’s love language, be it your spouse, child, co-worker, friend, etc., is one of the quickest ways to make them feel valued and appreciated. If you know your child longs for praise, words of affirmation will fill their love tank up quickly. If your friend receives love through gifts, sometimes dropping by with a well-timed cup of coffee is all it takes.