Everyone values trust in relationships. As individuals, we develop deeper relationships by investing time and energy into people. Whether it is a relationship with a spouse, a family member, or a friend, being trustworthy is foundational for developing deep and meaningful relationships with other people. Hopefully, we all strive to be dependable, honorable, principled, and truthful in each and every relationship we share with others.
The Bible has a beautiful way of bypassing selfish desires. All too often when presented with a choice between something we want or something we committed to do, we rationalize the choice that benefits us. Rationalizing from selfish desires typically leads to broken promises. We tend to rationalize our own behavior and overlook our own shortcomings. We want to be viewed by our intentions and not our actions. If we failed to do the right thing but had good intentions, we want our friends to have mercy and understand. Yet, all too often, we treat others based on their actions, bypassing and ignoring their intentions. The outcome is we get hurt and offended by people. We treat others harshly when they let us down. Strive to love people through their mistakes and shortcomings and they will respond with the same courtesy. Trustworthy people are purposeful and deliberate, long-suffering, reliable, discreet, and good listeners who strive to understand situations outside their own.
Trustworthy friends are purposeful and deliberate. Growing up, I was taught that to have friends you need to be a friend. That old saying is actually biblical. King Solomon wrote, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly.” (Proverbs 18:24a NKJV). Trust in any relationship takes time. People must invest in each other to develop deep and lasting relationships. People need to see each other time and time again to build a foundation over shared stories and experiences. This will only happen if you enjoy someone’s company. Having a history with a spouse or friend creates even deeper bonds which bind stronger ties over time. King Solomon wrote, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Proverbs 17:17 NKJV).